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Progress Not Perfection

Life is too short to put off happiness. This is your time to make small changes now that will benefit your long-term health goals, help you live in the present, and be happy for the rest of your life. Get it? I want you to be happy! That’s why the Best Day Ever Challenge is not a crazy detox or restrictive diet. It’s not about being perfect either. I get it. Life happens. We are human. We are perfectly imperfect. The sooner that you can accept your imperfections and the fact that your body is always changing (and will continue to always change), the sooner you’ll be able to focus on your progress. Just remember to breathe and do the best that you can. Please do not beat yourself up if you miss a single goal. Look at your entire list as a whole to get the complete picture of your progress. You got this!

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Progress Not Perfection

Life is too short to put off happiness. This is your time to make small changes now that will ben...

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The Art of Cultivating Friends

I’m in a few different business Mastermind Groups. I cherish each and every group I am in and find value in their interactions. One of the questions that has been extremely popular lately among all my groups is this: how do adults make friends? When we were in high school and college, it was easy to make friends. We were thrown into natural groups because of the shared schooling experience and then from there, it was just a matter of finding the people that “fit” with you. As adults, it’s considerably more difficult to find and form close friendships. There’s a variety of reasons for this. We’re busy with our own lives, focused inward on ourselves and our families. Any extra time is usually spent on self-improvement (from working out to meditation to reading) or doing fun things with family. Outside of work, adults don’t spend a lot of time in groups, or tribes. Paradoxically it is when we are adults, navigating the difficulties of juggling work and family, stressing out about finances and confronting mortality, that we most need good friends to talk through all those issues. So, how do we find friends as adults? Become a person worth making friends with. Are you a person that has something of value to offer to new people? Are you interesting? Caring? Smart? Can you carry a good conversation? If you want to attract high-quality people into your life and group of friends, it starts with you being the kind of person you’d like to be friends with. Discover a hobby. Read interesting books. Give yourself something to talk about when you do find someone to be friends with. Seek out group activities. When we’re out of school, there are only a few places where we have the opportunity to see people over and over again. Church, exercise classes, book clubs, group crafting activities, volunteer activities and organized sports are all great places to start to find new friends. And, by participating in any of those activities, you will be giving yourself an opportunity to grow as a person too. It’s a win-win. Ask. It feels vaguely weird the first time you ask another adult out for coffee or drinks. And, like when you were 15, the fear of rejection never goes away. When I’m “dating” a new friend, I like to suggest activities (for me it’s normally around hiking, walking, or wine tasting). That way, if the entire experience is a dud, at least you had fun because the activity was something you’d love to do anyway. Follow-Up. If you want to create a relationship, it’s important to be consistent in reaching out. Another friend and I were talking the other day and we both realized that we feel like we’re constantly the ones making the effort, making the calls, suggesting the dates, and sending the texts. And, you know what? That’s okay. Friendship isn’t about keeping score about who called who. It’s about making those layers of trust, common interests, and shared goals. So, when you make a promising connection, reach out and solidify that connection. Psst....a great way to meet new people is by signing up for one of our challenges! Enrollment is still open and the challenge starts in ONE WEEK. Find out more here! 

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The Art of Cultivating Friends

I’m in a few different business Mastermind Groups. I cherish each and every group I am in and fin...

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You Are Responsible for What You Do and What You Don’t Do

What chronic situation in your life are you complaining about routinely but not doing anything about? Here’s an example of a conversation that I’ve had many times before. A good friend came to me with the same gripe I’ve heard for the last ten years, “XYZ won’t quit doing this incredibly annoying behavior and it’s ruining my life. I don’t want to go to work. I don’t want to see them socially and I hate my life.” Wow, “I hate my life” is a pretty powerful statement. That’s a lot of power to give over to someone else. The conversation didn’t end well. I pointed out, as I have for the last decade, that they have a CHOICE in how they are going to act and react to this person. I said what many wiser teachers before me have said: in a relationship you cannot control the other person. You can only control yourself and your actions and reactions in any given situation. The conversation got heated. I feel so strongly about the concept of “Take 100% responsibility for your life” that I get worked up when I see people close to me in pain because they’re not living by this principle. You chose to eat the last Twinkie. Every day. For the last 15 years. Now you’re obese. That’s not the food industry’s fault. You chose to have that last drink at the bar. Every Wednesday. For the last 10 years. Now you’ve had your license taken away for your third DUI. That’s not the bar’s fault. You chose to buy the big house knowing you’d have to vacuum six rooms and clean four toilets. Every week. For the last five years. Now you’re feeling like you don’t have enough quality time with your family. That’s not the house’s fault. I was in Seattle recently dealing with their horrendous traffic. But, in sharp contrast to some of the drivers around me, my blood pressure was stable. I prepared for the traffic by packing a book on tape, stopping at the store to get three different healthy snacks and I had a full bottle of water. All around me, you could see tempers flaring as the traffic stressed and entire commute worth of drivers out. We were all in the same chronic situation – yet some of us were happy and others were downright angry and miserable. How you act and react to situations is a choice. Listen to yourself for the next week. Are you routinely complaining about something? What can YOU do to change? How can YOU control your reaction so that the situation or the person isn’t taking up so much space in your head?

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You Are Responsible for What You Do and What You Don’t Do

What chronic situation in your life are you complaining about routinely but not doing anything ab...

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Stop Doing Something

“You were born with potential.You were born with goodness and trust.You were born with ideals and dreams.You were born with greatness.You were born with wings.You are not meant for crawling, so don’t.You have wings.Learn to use them, and fly.”— Rumi There are things in our lives that we love to do, that give us energy, that expand our horizons, that make the view of the world seem just a little brighter than before. Of course there are also things that we dread doing, that bring us down every time and make our lives seem like one boring trudge after another. Some of those things, you have to do. The trash needs to get emptied. The dog needs to get walked. You’ve got to deal with (insert least favorite relative here) during the holidays. Then there are some things that you do because we feel like you need to – serve on a board, volunteer at school, or sign up to host a fundraiser. And finally, there are things that just fill up your cup, such as crafting, running, or cooking. Oh hi there, thing that needs to get done but can also be fulfilling! Everything you’re doing right now that doesn’t bring you joy, doesn’t expand your horizons, or doesn’t fill you with energy is taking away from your family, it’s taking away from you and it’s taking away from your growing business. Take five minutes write now to write an Expansion/Contraction List. On the Expansion side are things that you LOVE to do, things that fill you with joy, things that make you feel like you could scale a mountain, the things in your life that you want to do more of. On the Contraction side are things that you hate to do, that you dread doing, that you feel drained every single time you do them. Go ahead, write it all down, get it all out! Once you have your lists, the next part is easier said than done. Commit to doing less of THREE things on your Contraction list and commit to doing more of THREE things on your Expansion list. You define what “more” means to you. It will vary with each person but you must define it. If you don’t get specific about how much more time you’re going to spend smelling the roses rather than washing your windows, you probably won’t do it and you won’t be able to see a measurable result in your mood and outlook towards life. In order to make more time for those things that enliven you and make you say “woohoo!” you’ve got to quit doing other things, preferably things that don’t inspire you or things that you hate doing. This concept didn’t originate with me. I’ve heard it time and time again from great leaders but it bears repeating: you are what you do repeatedly, day in and day out. This month and as we transition into 2018, do more of the things that energize you, that make you feel good and that lead you to your goals. For me, that means focusing on friends, family + community and participating in Best Day Ever's quarterly lifestyle challenges. If that's something you're interested in as well, we'd love to have you! Click here to find out more information. What are some other things on your Expansion list?  

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Stop Doing Something

“You were born with potential.You were born with goodness and trust.You were born with ideals and...

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Friday Vibes 12.01.2017

Friday Vibes takes a spin around the web and weaves together pieces for living your best life. Here are a few things I'm majorly crushing on this week. Motivate: I choose purpose over perfect. Make: The Soap Queen blog has the best DIY face mask to fit your skin type. Pamper yourself! Make: Get into the holiday spirit with this classic ornament wreath tutorial. So elegant.  Munch: There’s a new “wing” in town! Douse some crispy cauliflower florets in a spicey honey-lime sauce and you’ll be ready for a healthy game day.   

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Friday Vibes 12.01.2017

Friday Vibes takes a spin around the web and weaves together pieces for living your best life. He...

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